16 Mar

Do Overs or 2nd Chances?

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I started my newsletter shortly after Ground Hog Day in early February – it reminded me of the “Ground Hog Day” movie with Bill Murray. Do you remember?  Murray had to re-live the day over and over and over again.

It got me thinking about “do overs” and “2nd chances” in our lives.

A “Do Over”

A “do over” is going back in time and re-living a moment in your life, only this time you make a better choice or take a different action.

“Do overs” happen all the time in our imagination. You recall a situation or event in your life and imagine living it again but with a more satisfying result.

You know what I mean…

  •  Making a snappy response at that important meeting
  • Choosing a different path when you were at a cross-roads in your life
  • Saying “yes” to a risky adventure (or saying “no”)

When I was in the midst of my divorce many years ago, there were times when I wished for a “do over” to go back and make a different choice. Wished I had paid attention to my own inner “red flags” rather than viewing the relationship through the rose-coloured glasses of romance.

Imagining a “do over” can be fun and maybe even a little satisfying but it keeps you focused on the past, looking back.

Life is lived in the present, moving forward. That brings me to 2nd chances.

A “2nd Chance”

As you move forward in life, 2nd chances will come your way.  Life is a journey and all experiences can enrich your life.  Mistakes are made and lessons learned.

When given a 2nd chance, you have the benefit of your life experience (and even a little wisdom) to guide you.

You’ve learned that:

  •  A snappy response may feel good but a thoughtful one makes a difference
  • Crossroads are about being true to yourself and honouring your values
  • When faced with an adventure (risky or simply fun), trust your gut, that inner knowing of what’s right for you.

I had a 2nd chance at marriage and my relationship with my husband, Bill, is richer because of my earlier experience.  I learned what was important to me in a relationship and ours is built on love, respect, and shared values.  (And, of course, moments of romance – after all, I am a romantic J.)

So when you find yourself wishing for a do over, take the learning instead and move on.

Life is lived in the present and each new day is a 2nd chance – a 2nd chance to have fun, to be kind, to try again, to learn something new, to rekindle a friendship.  What else?

To quote Oprah Winfrey:

If you are still breathing, you have a second chance.

What will your 2nd chances include?