16 Apr

What’s Your “Love Language”?

I have a great resource for you.  It’s a book – The 5 Love Languages®: Singles Edition by Gary Chapman.

From the back cover:

“Whether you want to be closer to your parents, have better friendships, or give dating another try, The 5 love Languages®: Singles Edition will give you the confidence you need to connect with others in a more meaningful way.”

What’s It About

Chapman’s research shows that we have five “love languages” to express love.  Each of us gives and receives love in a certain “language”.

Knowing your love language and recognizing the love language of others can enrich your relationships – romantic, or otherwise.

The 5 Love Languages are:

Words of Affirmation – Expressing love to others with words of love, appreciation, encouragement, and affection.

Giving Gifts – Giving a tangible object or gift that says,  “I was thinking of about you and I wanted you to have this.”  The important thing about the gift, big or small, is the expression of love that surrounds it.

Acts of Service – Doing something for someone that is freely given as an expression of love. Note, however, that anything done out of guilt, resentment or manipulation is not an Act of Service.

Quality Time – Giving someone your undivided attention or doing something together you both enjoy that creates a sense of togetherness.

Physical Touch – Expressing emotional love to others by means of affirming physical touch.  Knowing when to touch, knowing how to touch so you speak the person’s love language.  Of course, included is knowing what’s appropriate or inappropriate.


If you are like me, you may relate to all five “love languages”.  Who doesn’t like to hear words of love and appreciation or receive a special gift on occasion?   But there is usually one that resonates the most.

I now have insight into why I was feeling out of sorts recently.   Bill and I have been busy with lots of activities but not much quality time together.  My “out of sorts” feeling was shedding light on my love language.  Not hard to guess which one.

What about you?

What is your love language?

What if you knew the love language of your most important relationship?

Worth checking out, yes?  The book is available at Amazon, Chapters and the local library.

In service,